The Book
This is Brian’s first book. We hope not his last.
How to Do More than Survive – Thrive
A Sample of the Letters
To My Friend Who Doesn’t Feel Loved
It hurts so much to feel unloved. Not just by someone you care about, but by friends and your church family. Rejection is one of life’s deeper pains, and when people treat us like we’re invisible, it hurts . . .
To My Doctor Friend Who is Struggling with Burnout
When we got together for coffee, you shared that you’re struggling to stay focused and find the energy to do what you need to do. It’s hard to be the patient when you’re used to being the one with the answers . . .
To My Friend Who Is Angry at God
Are you angry at God because of your pain? I’ve been there too. But what if I told you that anger at God is a natural step toward overcoming your pain? Anger is a key part of grief . . .
To My Friend Who Just Lost Her Husband
I know how much you loved your husband. I don’t pretend to understand all your sorrow and grief, but I share in some of it. I understand his loss leaves a gaping hole in your heart and in your family . . .
To My Friend Who is Thinking About Suicide
When you asked to meet, I didn’t know what to expect. You said, “I’ve been thinking seriously about suicide. Life has become too much pressure and offers too many choices and an overwhelming amount of stress and sadness that I’m not sure how to handle.” . . .
To My Friend Who Lost Their Child
There are no words. You’re living every parent’s worst nightmare. And I’m not going to pretend that my words will change your grief, but I do hope they encourage you. I can express my empathy and grief for you, but there are no words that change the pain . . .
To My Friend Who is Living in Enemy Mode
You’ve lived in enemy mode so long you can’t see it anymore. Many of us do. In America, we find our identity in our tribes, seek community only in our tribes, and feel better about ourselves when our tribe “wins.” Too often, this is our escape from pain . . .
To My Pastor Friend Who is Suppressing the Hurt from Leading a Church
Your job is demanding. People call with great needs. And you’re there whether it’s your day off or the middle of the night. Sometimes, they don’t call, and then they’re mad you didn’t come to see them in the hospital. Other times, your best isn’t deep enough, short enough, or relatable enough . . .